Showing posts with label meaning of love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label meaning of love. Show all posts

Friday, October 28, 2011

Lessons From a Nissan


Ryan was young, energetic and the apple of his father’s eye.  They did everything together.  Mr. Fields had grown up poor as the child of migrant workers.  The family followed the crops and Anthony Fields was forced to attend three or four different schools every year.  There were gaps in his education on graduation day, but he was determined to overcome his difficult beginning. 
The week before graduation, Anthony Fields was hired as a custodian at an engineering firm.  He started the job the Monday after graduation.  He was assigned the evening shift, working from 5:00 p.m. until the offices had been cleaned and made ready for the following workday.  On his breaks, Anthony read in the many engineering books in the different offices.
One evening, an engineering team was working late to meet a timeline for a client.  Anthony made it a point to hang around outside the conference room and listen to their conversation as much as possible.  He was surprised that he understood some of the verbiage used among the team.  Eventually one by one, the engineers began to go home, leaving Mr. Trahan alone to complete the project.
Soon Anthony heard Mr. Trahan using language, indicating frustration.  Anthony took a deep breath and entered the conference room.  “Is something wrong, sir?”  He asked with deep humiliation.

“I spilled my coffee on these copies.  Now I’ll have to run new copies and start my final check all over again.”
“May I help you?”
Mr. Trahan gave Anthony several small tasks to complete.  Anthony made a point of doing each job to the best of his ability.  By the end of the evening, Mr. Trahan had taken a special interest in Anthony.  The following week he requested that Anthony be hired as his assistant.  The engineering firm recognized Anthony’s intelligence and helped him with a college education followed by a well paying job after graduation.

Before he even had children, Anthony Fields determined that his children would have the finer things in life that had been denied him because of low economic status.  His family now lived in a beautiful house, wore designer clothes, and drove expensive cars.  Anthony was proud of the way he was able to provide for his family.

On Ryan’s eighteenth birthday and against the advice of his wife, Anthony presented him with a brand new Nissan GT-R.  The car was sleek with its silver paint job and chrome wheels.  It had the fastest engine on the market and would do 0 to 60 in 3.5 seconds. 

“Now son, this is an expensive automobile.  You need to treat it well and take good care of it.  Owning a car like this is a responsibility.  I am trusting that you are up to the challenge.”

“I am, Dad.  I’ll take good care of the car.”

The first time Anthony found a scratch on the car, he looked like he was going to explode.  “How dare you treat this car like that?  Do you know what I paid for this?  When I was your age, I would have done anything to have an old junk car, much less a car like this.”

“I’m sorry Dad.  It was an accident. I’ll buff the scratch out.”  Ryan made good on his promise and the car looked like new again.

Every night Anthony asked Ryan about the car.  “How’s the car, son?”  “Is the car running alright?”  “Tell me about the car.  Anything I should know?”

It wasn’t long before Ryan began to believe the car was more important to his dad than he was.  Ryan loved that car, but there were times when he wished he had a clunker so he didn’t have to worry what happened to it. 

One Friday night, Ryan met up with a group of old friends.  They hung out at the pizza parlor, ate way too much, and talked even more. 

“How fast is your car, Ryan?”  Terry asked.
“It will do 0-60 in 3.5 seconds.”
“I don’t believe that.”
“Well you can believe what you want.  I’m telling you that my Nissan will do 0-60 in 3.5 seconds.”
“I’d like to see that.” Daniel whooped.
“Yeah, me too.” Chase chimed in.
“You are going to have to prove that to me.”  Terry challenged.
“Let’s try it out.  We can go out to Old Cemetery Road and watch.  We can time it as Ryan drives.”
“Oh, great idea.”
“Let’s go.”
Ryan knew better than to let himself get caught up in their enthusiasm and tried to squelch the game.  “Guys, I’m not sure that is such a great idea.  What if something happened?”
“Nothing’s going to happen, man.”
“Why, you chicken?”
“No, I’m not chicken.  My dad has been on my case about the car and I don’t want to make him angry.”
“Come on Ryan.  Don’t wimp out on us now.”
“I don’t want any of you to get hurt.”  Daniel tried again.
“We won’t get hurt.  We’ll stay in our cars away from you.  We can communicate by the walkie-talkies on our phones.  That way everyone is safe and we can all hear the signal to start.  We’ll start the timers on our phones.”
“Yeah, that’s a safe idea.  Come on Ryan.  Do it, man.”
“Alright, but no one rides with me. Understood?”
“Got it.  Don’t worry about us.”
“Yeah, we’ll be happy to stand on the sidelines and watch.”
“No standing on the sidelines.  You must all be in a car or no deal.”
“It was just a figure of speech, Bub.  Sheesh.  Lighten up man.”
The group drove out to Old Cemetery Road, parking on the side of the road to give Ryan plenty of room.  They stood in front of the first car’s lights to make sure everyone’s phone was working correctly.  Terry assigned himself the job of official time-keeper.  When everyone could hear Terry’s voice on their phones, they got back in the cars and listened to his instructions. 
Ryan got in his car, started the motor, and revved the engine.  It sounded great.  He checked all the safety features of the car.  Seat belt was tight around his hips; airbag was on and ready to operate if needed.  Then he heard Terry’s voice.
“Ryan, are you ready?”
“Ready.”
“I’m counting down from five.  Here we go, 5-4-3-2-1-go.”
Ryan hit the accelerator as hard as he could.  He felt the pedal go all the way to the floor.  The G force was exhilarating.  He blinked once and felt the back tires hit gravel, sliding the entire rear end of the car to the right.  He turned the steering wheel to get back on the road.  All four wheels left the pavement.
The other boys sat in their cars, stunned from what was happening.  They watched their friend’s car lift off the ground and roll three times, coming to a stop upside down in the ditch.  The boys jumped out of their cars as soon as Ryan’s came to a stop.  They all ran to him, shouting orders, asking questions, and using language that would embarrass their mothers.
Terry started to open the car door.  “Don’t do that man.”  Daniel yelled.
“Someone call 911.”  Chase yelled.
In a very short time, the dark and otherwise, ominous road was lit up like a Christmas from the red, blue, and yellow lights of the different emergency vehicles. One police officer spoke to each boy individually and took statements.  He also lectured the boys as a group.  They were let off with a warning this time, but warned that if they were found in the area again, warrants would be issued.
Eventually the boys were dismissed and ordered to go straight home.  No one had to be told twice. 
Anthony Fields was in a deep sleep when the doorbell rang.  Mrs. Fields shook him.  “Tony, wake up.  Someone is at the front door.”
Slowly the realization of what was happening beckoned him from slumber.   Walking to the front door, he could see reflections of emergency lights flashing through the window and knew something was wrong.  Where is Ryan?  He took a deep breath before opening the door prepared to see Ryan in handcuffs, but found a lone officer standing on the other side.
“Are you Anthony Fields?” the officer asked.
“Yes I am.”
“Do you have a son named Ryan Fields?”
“Yes, is he alright?”
“Your son was in an accident tonight.  You will need to go to St. Luke’s Hospital immediately.”
“Is he going to be alright?”
“I really don’t know.  You just need to go to the hospital.  Would you like a police escort?”
“That would be helpful.  Thank you, officer.”
When Anthony returned to the bedroom, his wife was dressing.  “I heard what he said.  I’ll be ready in just a minute.”
Anthony began dressing as quickly as he could.  He followed the police car to the hospital, grateful for the assistance.  There were more emergency vehicles in the hospital parking lot.  Anthony and his wife hurried into the emergency room and asked for Ryan.
A police officer walked up to them and introduced himself.  “I’m Officer Smith.  We were called after the accident.  Several boys decided to challenge your son about the speed of his car, so they went out to Old Cemetery Road for the proof.  Your son’s car hit gravel and went airborne, rolling three times before coming to a stop upside down in the ditch.”
“Is he alive?”
“Yes, he is alive.  The doctor is examining him now.  Mr. Fields, this is a dangerous sport.  Please caution your son about any encore performances.”
“I will.  Thank you, Officer.”
A man in green scrubs approached the couple.  “I’m Dr. Gray.  Your son is in stable condition, but lucky to be alive.  He will require a couple of surgeries and physical therapy, but should recover with no lasting effects.”
“May we see him?”
Ryan’s parents were lead into a small room where they saw what appeared to be a very small little boy covered with a white sheet.  He looks a lot bigger in his own bed.  The couple walked closer to their son. 
Ryan opened his eyes.  “Dad, I think I totaled the car.  I’m so sorry.” He said in a weak voice.
Anthony could no longer prevent the tears from spilling from his eyes.  “I’m not worried about the car, Son.  It is nothing but metal, nuts, and bolts.  As long as you are alright, I’m happy.  I can buy another car.  I can’t get another Ryan.  Please get well, Son.  Your mother and I love you more than you can imagine.”

Monday, September 5, 2011

When Love Is Not Love


There is an old saying that goes: If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it must be a duck.  Not necessarily.  The picture on the left looks like a duck.  When pulled, it will make a noise like a duck.  Ask any child over 2 years old what it is and he will tell you "A duck."  Is it a duck?
If you ask this little boy what he is doing, he will say, "Riding my horse."  Is he?  He thinks he is.  With his imagination, he can go all over the country and capture many bad guys on that horse. 

You and I can see that it is not a real horse.  And we can see the duck is not a real duck.  Why?  Because we are adults and know the difference in real and make believe?  It seems that some women don't.

They live by the old Sandy Posey song Born a Woman.  The song said, "Stepped on, lied to, cheated on and treated like dirt.  If you're born a woman, you're born to be hurt."  There are women that allow some man to leave them for another woman only to completely forgive and take him back when he cries.  "Hey, everybody makes mistakes."  Your right.  They do.  What about the second or third time he does it?  "But he said he loved me."  Yes he did.  Would she take him back if he said, "By the way, I don't love you, but I need a place to crash for a while because the other woman threw me out"?  Or maybe "I don't love you, but I need your money"?  "Well no.  That would be stupid."  You are right, it would.  He knows that.  So what does he do?  He does what he does best.  He LIES.  Why?  Because it works.  It gets him what he wants.  Her friends try to tell her.  Does she listen?  No.  She stands up for him and proclaims his valor.  Then she tells her friends, "You just don't understand him." 

What does the Bible say about true love?
And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her.  Genesis 29:20.   Remember that Jacob had already worked seven years for Rachel.  He was lied to and cheated out of his fair wages.  Yet he agreed to work another seven years for her.

And if the servant shall plainly say, I love my master, my wife, and my children; I will not go out free:Exodus 21:5  This verse says that a man should love his wife and children enough to give up freedom to be with them.

When is love not really love? 
  • When it treats you with disrespect. 
  • When it puts anything above your feelings.
  • When it asks you to give up something you love.
  • When it offers false hope.
  • When it offers false apologies.
  • When it harms someone you love.
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Saturday, June 4, 2011

What Is Love?

When my children were growing up, I would tell them, "I have to do what is best for you, even when it is not easy on me or you."  Many times it would have been easier to give in to their request or ignore inappropriate behavior.  But if we love someone, taking 'easy street' is not in their best interest.  In fact it is self-indulgent.

Christ certainly didn't take the easy way out when he died on the cross for our sins.  The old song said, "He could have called 10,000 angels.  But He died for you and He died for me."  If we want to show the kind of love that Christ showed us, we need to be willing to sacrifice ourselves for our loved ones' best interest.

As most of you know, my mother-in-law just passed away.  She was a wonderful woman in many ways, but irresponsible with finances and health.  To do what was in her best interest, I obtained complete control of her finances and medical decisions.  It was not easy to go through the legal channels, but the end result was that I was able to place her in an assisted living facility which extended her life by at least five years.  These facilities are not cheap and there is no way she could have afforded it if she had access to funds.  I did what I had to do to care for her.  She understood and after an adjustment period, appreciated it.  (The nurses would laugh and tell me that if they asked her to make a decision, her answer was always "Call Theresa.")

I am now faced with another 'opportunity to serve' but at great sacrifice.  This task will be much harder, but if I am to show the love of Christ, I must be willing to go to whatever lengths necessary to provide care for some one who is unable to recognize the need.  I will tell you more about this situation in later posts.  Please pray for me as I do the research and make the decisions necessary.